One More Chance

Yes this is about the movie… hehe

A friend shared with me her professor’s insight. According to her, he said that even though two people love each other so much they still need space.

True. Isn’t it that if we stare at something that’s held too close to our face our vision of the object gets obscured. Much is true with any relationship I believe. It is either we project ourselves to the other, we take control because we want them to be like us. Or we are the ones who let the other take control over us, we just conform to the needs and wants of the other and we end up losing our identity in their shadow. It depends which side of the fence are we in.

Sometimes too because of too much intimacy (too much intimacy, is this the right term? but you know what i mean), the special things that a person does to us become too ordinary when we’re so used to it. Much worse, the person who used to be so special to us becomes too familiar and eventually gets taken for granted.

My own insight: we may love someone so much yet still choose to hurt the person. Sometimes it is our “love” that even causes the pain, whether for good or for bad reasons, whether consciously or unconsciously.

I am both an offender as well as a victim of love, in my relationships with God and with people. Until now I cannot understand why loving could be so painful yet so wonderfully beautiful. I remember a txt message from a hopeless romantic friend, it says: loving could be very painful, but it’s so amazing to know that no matter how hard it is, loving is still the simplest and best way why you find yourself moving on... well, it is our choice whether to let our feelings of guilt or of fear of being hurt cripple us or make us bitter in love. i'd say go for broke! ...hahaha easier said than done i know. but with God's grace, we can see it through.

“Love and get hurt. Get hurt and learn. Learn and love again.”

Eeew… :)